Recently I had a incident which triggered me and I wrote about in my last post. Something similar happened and I wrote this on Facebook,
Received a call from a former colleague who seemed desperate to reconnect with old co-workers. despite telling him I’ve moved on to better things, he wouldn’t take no for an answer. Some people just can’t seem to let go of the past, constantly reminiscing about the days of working overtime without pay, dealing with incompetent managers and co-workers more interested in office politics than actual work. It’s like an ongoing episode of The Office, but without the humour or likable characters. Perhaps some people are afraid to move on or have nothing else going on in their lives.
As for me, I’m too busy living my best life, enjoying my job, hobbies, and social life to dwell on the past. But if reconnecting with old co-workers is your thing, go ahead. Just remember. not to contact other colleagues to ask about my whereabouts, as I prefer to keep my distance.
I am noticing a trend here. A few months ago, I released two Chrome extensions which I built during my free time as a way to learn new skills. As soon as the announcement of the extensions hit social media, a former colleague called me. She had not contacted me or asked about my health in the last 18 months. I do not know her motives, but I have decided to keep my distance from such people as a way to maintain my mental health.
I do not want to discuss people or events from the past. I have no animosity towards these individuals, but I prefer to talk about ideas, solutions, and things that can make us laugh and enjoy our conversations. I am not interested in discussing work-related topics such as the number of hours I work, salary negotiations, office politics, or past colleagues involved in them.
Some people are best left outside the door; I hate the welcome mat that is outside my front door. It should say keep out its my space; kind of like Shrek, my SWAMP!